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A Dating Buddy – The Quickest, Wisest, Most Enjoyable Way to Find Love! [EP020]
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Learn how to build and keep a romantic relationship that’s healthy, happy, And that’s something you’ll only know by talking deeply and honestly with your partner. Many couples find that the face-to-face contact of their early dating days is.
When you’ve finally found that one person you can really see a future with, it’s so easy to jump in quickly without really thinking things through. After all, if you really love someone and your relationship is unlike anything you’ve ever been in before, why wait? To be fair, there’s nothing wrong with that. When you know, you know. But according to experts, taking your relationship to the next level shouldn’t be taken lightly.
There are some personal questions you should ask your partner before you even think about moving one step further. It’s totally a given, but you need to know a lot more about them than their likes, dislikes, and hobbies. Getting to know someone on a deeper and more personal level can only happen if you ask the right questions and have ongoing discussions.
More often that not, questions that build deeper connections can make people feel uncomfortable.
Stopping Old Wounds from Stealing Relationships
Cancel anytime. How do you feel about setting goals? Our hearts will swell as we cross the finish line, and then we can finally relax and savor our happiness. Are you frustrated by stymied relationships, missed connections, and the loneliness of the search for someone to spend the rest of your life with? Are you ready, instead, to find “The One”?
These dating tips will help you find the right person and build a satisfying such as being free to pursue your own hobbies and interests, learning how to our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey. Emotions can change and deepen over time, and friends sometimes become.
This post originally appeared at WaitButWhy. Dissatisfied single people should actually consider themselves in a neutral, fairly hopeful position, compared to what their situation could be. All the research on how vastly happiness varies between happy and unhappy marriages makes perfect sense, of course. Well, start by subtracting your age from Studies have shown people to be generally bad, when single, at predicting what later turn out to be their actual relationship preferences.
One study found that speed daters questioned about their relationship preferences usually prove themselves wrong just minutes later with what they show to prefer in the actual event. Unfortunately, not many people have a chance to be in more than a few, if any, serious relationships before they make their big decision.
No, when it comes to dating, society frowns upon thinking too much about it, instead opting for things like relying on fate, going with your gut, and hoping for the best. In other words, people end up picking from whatever pool of options they have, no matter how poorly matched they might be to those candidates. The obvious conclusion to draw here is that outside of serious socialites, everyone looking for a life partner should be doing a lot of online dating, speed dating, and other systems created to broaden the candidate pool in an intelligent way.
But good old society frowns upon that, and people are often still timid to say they met their spouse on a dating site. The respectable way to meet a life partner is by dumb luck, by bumping into them randomly or being introduced to them from within your little pool. It makes no sense—the former is one step away from a happy marriage, while the latter must either settle for permanent unhappiness or endure a messy divorce just to catch up to where the single person is.
Ask Your Partner These 11 Questions To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
But too many short cuts can lead to a lazy, unintentional relationship that merely exists, instead of thrives. Whatever your reason, you find yourself craving the ability to go deeper with your intimate partner. In the day to day of our relationships, a lot of stuff can get swept under the rug. I recommend asking some of the following questions once every few months, and others on a weekly basis.
For best results, clear all distractions from your environment.
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If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up? If you had the ability to erase something that you did in the past, what would it be? If I asked you at age 5 what you wanted to be when you grew up, what would you say? If you could take us anywhere in the world right now, where would you take us? If you could do one thing without suffering the consequences, what would you do? Is there something out there, a thought, an idea, a current event, or a fear that you find deeply unsettling?
50 Questions to Ask Your Partner to Connect on a Deeper Level
Psychotherapist, author, podcaster, and leading voice on cultivating healthy intimacy. You think to yourself, There must be a good reason why this person rejected me when all I did was be as kind, funny, interesting as I could possibly be…. And so you began to reflect back on yourself. You started looking into things you could do to ramp up the attraction this person felt for you. Or you suppressed certain qualities about yourself that you suspected were a bit odd, or quirky, or less than desirable.
Or if you were a natural helper and like to fix and give advice, you told yourself to listen more and advise less.
The steps I describe in this post and in my book Deeper Dating will not only Or, instead, do you find that your partner continues to be almost.
Before I married my wonderful husband, I dated a lot of men. For most of my 20s and even my early 30s I had a perfect fairy-ideal of what romantic love was, probably because I was an actress and loved drama back then. At some point in our lives, we may believe that love should be like the kind of romance we see portrayed in films, television, and novels. For some reason, I always thought my romantic relationships were less if I did not experience this kind of fairy-tale relationship.
Maybe this is why I kept meeting frogs. At times, I bought into the belief that if I had a relationship with the perfect prince, then all would be well in my life. I thought, Now, I will be safe forever. In truth, I did marry a prince—but a prince who is also human, who has faults and issues just like every person, no matter how wonderful he is. At some point I grew up and learned to let go of the crazy metaphor of romantic love in order to find true happiness.
Yes, I was disappointed to realize that the knight riding through the night to save the damsel in distress is a fallacy. Why stories like these make our hearts sing is that the love is unrequited. Unavailability fuels the romantic expression. This kind of romantic story can only work when there is an absence of the lover.
Different people define relationships in different ways. But in order for a relationship to be healthy, it needs a few key ingredients! Open, honest and safe communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship.
Each will help you learn important lessons of dating and love, and all of them will support you in The Two Things You Need To Find In A Partner [E].
My gift to you: The first two chapters of my Bestseller Deeper Dating. The Deeper Dating Podcast is a wisdom-packed, research-filled toolkit for finding the beautiful love you desire! Now your deepest goal is to find your own lasting love. With my ongoing deep personal coaching and mentorship, you will commit to giving your all to achieve your precious goal—and help others to do the same. And what can we do to invite love back?
Why does even solid love often feel less than solid?
Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction & Discover the Power of Intimacy
To feel more connected, skip the small talk and ask these questions instead. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
The Deeper Dating Podcast is a wisdom-packed, research-filled toolkit for finding the beautiful love you desire! Do you want to learn research-backed tools for finding healthy love? The Two Things You Need To Find In A Partner [EP].
Millions of readers rely on HelpGuide for free, evidence-based resources to understand and navigate mental health challenges. Please donate today to help us protect, support, and save lives. Are you single and looking for love? Are you finding it hard to meet the right person? Life as a single person offers many rewards, such as being free to pursue your own hobbies and interests, learning how to enjoy your own company, and appreciating the quiet moments of solitude. For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey.
Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists. You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to an unresolved issue from your past. Whatever the case may be, you can overcome your obstacles. The first step to finding love is to reassess some of the misconceptions about dating and relationships that may be preventing you from finding lasting love.
Fact: While there are health benefits that come with being in a solid relationship, many people can be just as happy and fulfilled without being part of a couple.